// HYPOTHESIS_LOADED
We ask "How are you?" at least 20 times a day.
The answer is always "Good," "Fine," or "Busy."
These are lies. They are scripts.
The Experiment: Break the script. Ask 100 random people (Strangers, Friends,
Cashiers, Taxi Drivers) the real question:
"Are you truly happy?"
> THE DATA (N=100)
NO: 34% (34 People)
"I DON'T KNOW": 44% (44 People)
> CATEGORY 1: THE "I DON'T KNOW" (44%)
This was the most shocking category. Almost half the people I asked froze.
They treated the question like a trick.
Analysis: For many, "Happiness" has been replaced by "Distraction" or "Safety." They aren't sad, but they are numb.
> CATEGORY 2: THE "NO" (34%)
These people were refreshingly honest. They didn't hesitate.
Poverty and loneliness were the two biggest drivers of "No." It wasn't existential dread; it was tangible hardship.
> CATEGORY 3: THE "YES" (22%)
Who were the 22%? I expected them to be rich. I was wrong.
The rich people I asked were mostly in the "I Don't Know" category (mostly stressed about staying
rich).
The Happy ones had one thing in common: Connection.
> THE "PURPOSE" VARIABLE
I noticed a pattern. The people who said "Yes" were usually doing something they cared about,
or being with someone they loved.
Happiness was not a state of being; it was a byproduct of action.
- The guy building a shed.
- The mom holding a sleeping baby.
- The artist covered in paint.
> FINAL_VERDICT
We have overcomplicated happiness. We act like it's a destination we arrive at once we have the car, the
house, and the abs.
But the data shows that happiness is small. It's granular. It's a dog chasing a butterfly.
CONCLUSION: Stop asking "How are you?" Start asking "What are you working on?" or "Who do you love?" That's where the answer lives.